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Balancing /Juggling All the Many Balls

admin — Sat, 30 Jan 2021 07:10:36 +0000

There is a soccer ball…basketball.. volleyball…tennis ball…football… baseball. badminton ball… and so the list goes on. All so different in shape, size, context and everything. That is what we do as parents– and actually as humans constantly juggling. Animals do it too but make it look easier in their communal way of living and way of being. Observe their behavior and you will find they make it seamless.

We as parents are doing the same and will continue to do the same. However, with the positive/growth mindset to actually change your own neural pathways just like we desire for children and our youth. The decision to change our way of doing it — with positivity and joy is completely within reach and can actually make the juggling act look, act, and feel a bit easier and bring in some joy.

Truth is the juggling doesn’t end in this physical life and even as a parent. However with a growth mindset you can actually realize the mindful moments in it all.

Always in love and light,

Holiday Magic

admin — Wed, 02 Dec 2020 07:44:22 +0000

I know many people are thinking how can Holiday Magic occur during the Coronavirus? Well.. here’s the thing the actual month of December fosters the feeling of Holiday Magic for most. The cold and crisp mornings to the sun setting early to finding new innovative ways to decorate the interior of the house help to remind one of the special and treasured memories to share with our kids. It seems like most people have put up their holiday lights and most decorations. The house becomes an indoor winter wonderland. Smelling pine to different candles to baked items just makes holiday magic. Decide how the concept of holiday magic will look in your home. Talk as a family on how you want it to look. Truthfully.. instant mood lifter and booster!

In and with love and light,

OMG.. Sibling rivalry!!!!!

admin — Sat, 31 Oct 2020 05:04:56 +0000

There are so many Oh my Gosh /Oh my God moments in parenting.. Don’t you think? Don’t you wonder??? Well.. my latest fascination is with sibling rivalry. Probably because I don’t know what it is being an only child. The grunting.. the growling.. the crying… all of those BIG FEELINGS in such a short moment of time. All frontal lobe function especially executive functioning even for the “calm” one out the window.. Oh wait even for me as a parent. It’s like feeding off of their emotion is going to take it down a notch…

Where did my clinical counseling skills go in those moments????? Non existent!!! Why haven’t I taught them conflict resolution in those moments?? Hmm.. better get on that!!

Truth be told this is all of it== relationships to the max.. there are moments where significant others do the same — fight like cats and dogs.. how do you make up? How do these siblings grow from it.. Maybe they love it so much they do it more so!!

Regardless all said in done– love it!! Sibling rivalry shows how much relationships are about it all– love and catastrophes of emotions too!

In love and light always,

Quick Parent Self-Care Sheet during COVID-19 Crisis

admin — Sun, 10 May 2020 07:43:24 +0000

Quick Tip Sheet for Parental Self-Care in COVID-19 Crisis

Created by Arti Kumar-Jain, M.Ed, NCC, CYPFC, CHC, CPC

Take “Mindful Moment Breaks” (get up and move around from screen)

Take deep cleansing breaths

Stretch your arms, legs, and whole body

Read something engaging to you (Read to your child and have a D.E.A.R.: Drop Everything and Read Time in Your House

Take a power nap; rest your eyes (from the screen)

Open the windows; go for a quick walk

Eat a nutritious snack. (piece of fruit, handful of nuts, homemade juice, smoothie to sip on)

Build into your calendar Playtime with your child/family

Schedule free time for yourself (even 5-minute intervals

Make a list of the things you wish to do (a Wish List)

Connect with someone that pops into your head (choose a medium that works for you- phone, text, etc.)

Light a candle and take a shower/bath at end of evening

Allocate chores/responsibilities to others or save for another day

Tell the family you need a break when you notice your feelings (becoming escalated)

Be kind, patient, and loving to yourself! Do right by you—to give yourself to your family

Watch or listen to a podcast; quick YouTube video that makes you laugh and brings you joy

Be kind, patient, and loving to yourself! Do right by you—to give yourself to your family

Just posted on fb.. real h.w.

admin — Wed, 18 Mar 2020 12:29:35 +0000

Making sense of things…

admin — Wed, 18 Mar 2020 11:12:48 +0000

While we talk about “unchartered waters in the world” and in the country as things have been shut down … What does this all mean?

I truly believe it is a reset.. a reset button to say reset.. rest..rewind.. face and look inward.. make memories.. make traditions…

Cabin fever can happen of course but how do you work with it.. what do yo tell your kids on needing space? What do your kids say when they need space? I dare and encourage you as homework to come with something for giving time and space and think time and reset ..

In and with love and light

Teaching kids hygiene

admin — Thu, 12 Mar 2020 11:41:38 +0000

So in the current situation in the world we have to equip our kids even more so on how to wash their hands, keep clean and do best universal precautions… here are some awesome posters you can print for free from a great website and discuss and review with your kids

https://worksheets.edhelper.com/teacher-education/bulletin-board-posters-stop-germs-in-the-classroom.pdf?fbclid=IwAR0Ke3dVV4uI1AJfsaPyEeRuBfI58XGYmHtQGtyMhMWerjSMD_YCQZW5FG0

Being sick :(

admin — Fri, 28 Feb 2020 03:19:21 +0000

Tis the season of feeling sick! How much have you Clorox’ed this season! Crazy right ..

It’s not easy to clean and scrub constantly. I know both my girls’ teacher stayed afterschool to sanitize and disinfectant.

How do you find the balance of taking care of Everything when someone or everyone is sick including you?

Those moments and days are long. But also enjoy those snuggles and the moments that you do sit down with your kid(s).

In love and light,

Doing the best you can..

admin — Tue, 18 Feb 2020 03:45:26 +0000

Most often everyone feels tired and rugged and tired… but know this and ask this “Are you doing the best you can?”

“Are you doing too much?” These are questions to pay attention to when looking at your body and your overall functioning. How do you feel?

I dare and encourage you to be honest with yourself and do what you want and how you want.. what feels right to you .. your body.. and the rest will then be accepted by those you love..

Shift to take rest as needed and then know you are doing the best you can. And if you are not .. figure out why that is..

I dare and encourage you to do the best you can and own and love it!

With and in love and light,

Definition of a great momma… what is it to you?

admin — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 03:36:37 +0000

So.. we are always defining things and trying to compartmentalize things and make them for. Like perfect wrapping for Christmas presents. Don’t let me wrap your presents!

So mommas often compare themselves or are compared to others.. the feeling of not doing enough .. being enough.. where does it come from ? Societal norms…

Women of the past busted their tails yet still gave themselves permission for time especially with family and friends to gab. What happened that?

Well. I am here to remind you .. you are more than enough .. you are extraordinary .. you were especially designed to be beautiful to your children and created as the best momma for them. So I encourage and dare you to the happiest and fun loving momma for you, them, and your family.

Now go! And do it be the best momma you can be for you! That is all that you have.. I give you permission to set yourself

Free to do that .. go explore what it looks like beautiful momma!

Love and light,